{"id":1140,"date":"2019-12-12T17:41:34","date_gmt":"2019-12-12T17:41:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/insights360.com\/?p=1140"},"modified":"2020-02-21T13:07:39","modified_gmt":"2020-02-21T13:07:39","slug":"sugar-and-spice-and-minnesota-nice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/insights360.com\/?p=1140","title":{"rendered":"Sugar and Spice and Minnesota Nice"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-gallery columns-3 is-cropped wp-block-gallery-1 is-layout-flex wp-block-gallery-is-layout-flex\"><ul class=\"blocks-gallery-grid\"><li class=\"blocks-gallery-item\"><figure><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"391\" height=\"500\" src=\"https:\/\/insights360.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/tb-naughty-nice-lg.jpg\" alt=\"\" data-id=\"1144\" data-link=\"https:\/\/insights360.com\/?attachment_id=1144\" class=\"wp-image-1144\" srcset=\"https:\/\/insights360.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/tb-naughty-nice-lg.jpg 391w, https:\/\/insights360.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/tb-naughty-nice-lg-235x300.jpg 235w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 391px) 100vw, 391px\" \/><\/figure><\/li><li class=\"blocks-gallery-item\"><figure><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"500\" height=\"450\" src=\"https:\/\/insights360.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/Mn-nice4.jpg\" alt=\"\" data-id=\"1160\" data-link=\"https:\/\/insights360.com\/?attachment_id=1160\" class=\"wp-image-1160\" srcset=\"https:\/\/insights360.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/Mn-nice4.jpg 500w, https:\/\/insights360.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/Mn-nice4-300x270.jpg 300w, https:\/\/insights360.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/Mn-nice4-437x393.jpg 437w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px\" \/><\/figure><\/li><li class=\"blocks-gallery-item\"><figure><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"480\" height=\"562\" src=\"https:\/\/insights360.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/christmas-photo_edit.jpg\" alt=\"\" data-id=\"1166\" data-full-url=\"https:\/\/insights360.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/christmas-photo_edit.jpg\" data-link=\"https:\/\/insights360.com\/?attachment_id=1166\" class=\"wp-image-1166\" srcset=\"https:\/\/insights360.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/christmas-photo_edit.jpg 480w, https:\/\/insights360.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/christmas-photo_edit-256x300.jpg 256w, https:\/\/insights360.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/christmas-photo_edit-437x512.jpg 437w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 480px) 100vw, 480px\" \/><\/figure><\/li><\/ul><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-color has-medium-font-size has-luminous-vivid-orange-color\"><strong>Reflections on Authentic Listening<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As a native Minnesotan, I\u2019ve heard the phrase <strong><em>\u201cMinnesota\nNice,\u201d<\/em><\/strong> but never knew its origins. I submitted the question to MN\nPublic Radio\u2019s series, <em>\u201cAsk a \u2018Sotan.\u201d<\/em>\n&nbsp;A reporter reached out to me and to another\nsociologist, Prof. Lisa Waldner, who reflected on the historical and cultural\naspects of \u201cMinnesota Nice.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You can hear the podcast here: &nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.mprnews.org\/story\/2019\/11\/21\/ask-a-sotan-revisiting-minnesota-nice\">https:\/\/www.mprnews.org\/story\/2019\/11\/21\/ask-a-sotan-revisiting-minnesota-nice<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>While being nice may get you on Santa\u2019s GOOD list, the\nphrase is often understood to mean <strong><em>polite to a fault<\/em><\/strong> or even <strong><em>passive-aggressive.&nbsp; <\/em><\/strong>Waldner suggests that Minnesotans may\nuse the positive implications of the reputation to sidestep difficult conversations\nabout social issues. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-color has-vivid-cyan-blue-color\"><em><strong>So What?&nbsp; <\/strong><\/em>As researchers, we often engage respondents in difficult conversations. To be truly effective, we must be more than nice \u2013 we need to have those <strong>authentic conversations<\/strong> that &nbsp;get to the heart of the matter and reveal gold (truths) for our clients. The secret seems to be in <strong>HOW we listen, employing active and empathetic listening skills<\/strong> to seek to understand the other\u2019s perspective.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here\u2019s a &#8220;nice&#8221; summary for you from PostivePyschology.com.&nbsp;&nbsp;<em>(I especially like #2. Make it about <strong>them<\/strong>, not about you or your next question)<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"900\" height=\"900\" src=\"https:\/\/insights360.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/6-tips-on-listening.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1142\" srcset=\"https:\/\/insights360.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/6-tips-on-listening.jpg 900w, https:\/\/insights360.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/6-tips-on-listening-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/insights360.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/6-tips-on-listening-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/insights360.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/6-tips-on-listening-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/insights360.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/6-tips-on-listening-437x437.jpg 437w, https:\/\/insights360.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/6-tips-on-listening-564x564.jpg 564w, https:\/\/insights360.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/6-tips-on-listening-860x860.jpg 860w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 900px) 100vw, 900px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Julian Treasure provides an interesting perspective in this TED talk on <em>Five Ways to Listen Better<\/em>: <a href=\"https:\/\/youtu.be\/cSohjlYQI2A\">https:\/\/youtu.be\/cSohjlYQI2A<\/a>. If you want to jump right to his five tips, fast forward to 4:00, where he describes various practices that can re-tune our ears for conscious listening. <em><strong>Good reminders!<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-color has-vivid-cyan-blue-color\"><em><strong>So whether you rely on mindful listening for your craft (like me), or just want to make your holiday conversations with family &amp; friends more authentic, here\u2019s wishing you a season filled with sugar and spice and LOTS OF Minnesota Nice!<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/insights360.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/Alicias-Signature.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-780\" width=\"103\" height=\"61\" srcset=\"https:\/\/insights360.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/Alicias-Signature.png 961w, https:\/\/insights360.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/Alicias-Signature-300x181.png 300w, https:\/\/insights360.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/Alicias-Signature-768x464.png 768w, https:\/\/insights360.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/Alicias-Signature-437x264.png 437w, https:\/\/insights360.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/Alicias-Signature-564x341.png 564w, https:\/\/insights360.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/Alicias-Signature-860x520.png 860w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 103px) 100vw, 103px\" \/><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Reflections on Authentic Listening As a native Minnesotan, I\u2019ve heard the phrase \u201cMinnesota Nice,\u201d but never knew its origins. I submitted the question to MN Public Radio\u2019s series, \u201cAsk a \u2018Sotan.\u201d &nbsp;A reporter reached out to me and to another sociologist, Prof. Lisa Waldner, who reflected on the historical and cultural aspects of \u201cMinnesota Nice.\u201d [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[66,65,62,64,67,63],"class_list":["post-1140","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-alicias-notes","tag-christmas","tag-holidays","tag-listening","tag-minnesota","tag-nice","tag-tips","entry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/insights360.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1140","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/insights360.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/insights360.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/insights360.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/insights360.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1140"}],"version-history":[{"count":14,"href":"https:\/\/insights360.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1140\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1167,"href":"https:\/\/insights360.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1140\/revisions\/1167"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/insights360.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1140"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/insights360.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1140"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/insights360.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1140"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}